Amidst all off the chaos that ensues once you become engaged, you will undoubtedly become overwhelmed! From the planning, the shopping, hiring the vendors, and…the list goes on. Of everything that must be done, here are 10 things to do before your wedding.
Take a Moment
Before you get into the planning process, just take a moment and realize that you are engaged. You are officially a fiancé!
(Not as good as being married, but that’s coming up!)
As I’m sure you’ve found out by now, planning is stressful! Even better news? You’ll be doing this for the next few months!
Just take time to cuddle up to your fiancé, and dream about your marriage for a little bit.
Tell the World
Ok, you’ve gotten your time together, now it’s time to make the announcement!
Of all the things to do before your wedding, this may be the most important thing you can do! (If a tree falls when no one is around, does it make a sound? Does an engagement really happen if no one knows about it?)
Start with telling your family. It’s likely they knew this was going to be happening sooner or later, and they’ll be more than ecstatic to celebrate with you!
Next, tell your friends! They’ll squeal with you, hug you, make threats to your fiancé telling them they better not mess this up…(sorry, bad memories!)
This would also be a good time to ask your closest friends to be in the wedding if you decide to honor them by having them as a part of your bridal party!
Take a Finance Class Together
Did you know that one of the top reasons for divorce is finances? YIKES! It’s sad that money can split a family, but the truth is, how you manage money as a couple has a much larger impact on your relationship than you may realize.
One of the best things to do before your wedding, then, would be to take a finance class together.
A class that I would recommend to anyone (and I’m not a paid sponsor or affiliate) would be Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University.
Before getting married, my wife and I went through this class and have sense become debt free! And the freedom that comes with it really is amazing!
Book your Venue, Photographer, and Videographer
The three things that will book up faster than you know are venues, photographers, and videographers. So book them early, especially if you are having a Fall wedding!
Another reason you should book these three vendor before anyone else is simply because they cannot be in multiple places at one time.
Unlike florists, cake artists, make-up artists, and rentals, the Venue, Photographer, and Videographer will be with you the entire day. That means one location for a day.
Now, while the subject is at hand, many brides choose to opt out of hiring a videographer. My wife and I did when we got married, and it’s the one thing we regret. What we do not regret, however, is our solution: insert Wedit.
Wedit will send you 5 cameras to give to your guests so they can record your wedding, and when you send the cameras back, you can have Wedit edit your highlight film.
If you follow this link and use the code Derek25, you will get $25 off of Wedit’s services!
Have an Engagement Photo Session
If you’ve hired your photographer already, the next thing to do would to schedule and shoot an engagement session!
Many couples feel as though an engagement session isn’t necessary for their wedding story, but I would argue that it only adds to it!
Not only this, but the engagement session is a great opportunity for you to get to know how your photographer shoots and for the photographer to learn how to navigate the chemistry between your and your fiancé.
Other perks of the engagement session would be to use this time as a fun date, add the photos to your save the dates, and make a part of your decorations for the wedding!
Research Honeymoon Options
Close your eyes (only after you read this) and think about what the perfect honeymoon feels like.
Is it the ocean breeze blowing across your face, whipping your maxi dress around you as you stroll across the beach?
Are you washing down drinks with more drinks while lounging on a chair by the pool on your cruise?
Does your husband bring out coffee to the porch while you overlook the Great Smokey Mountains?
Many couples have an idea of what they want when planning their honeymoon, but when it comes time to planning it, they get set on something others have done, rather than the things they want to do.
I don’t want you to spend your first weeks on a trip that others told you to go on, you should go where you want to as a couple!
So talk together, perhaps hire a travel agent, and plan the honeymoon of your dreams!
Oh how I wish someone told me this piece of advice before getting married!
When you are outside of marriage, everything looks glamorous and romantic. Once you are in it, you’ll find it to be a complete mad house!
Take a couple hours and talk to each other about what your expectations are of each other once you get married.
Who does the trash? How much TV do you watch? Will one of you ever quit your job so you can stay home with the children? Do you want children, and how soon?
By confiding in each other of what you expect the other to do before you get married, you give each other a better chance to meet those expectations!
Go Through Premarital Counseling
This is another thing I will say may be one of the most important things to do before your wedding.
When someone says counseling, the automatic assumption is that the one receiving counseling is struggling or messed up.
On the contrary, one of the best times to receive counseling is when everything is going great! Instead of focusing on areas that need fixing, you can then focus on things to grow your relationship.
This also allows for there to be a mediator between the two of you so you can discuss hard things, and give wonderful advice on how to solve and resolve conflict.
I believe in Premarital Counseling so much, that the only reason I will give any kind of discount for my photography services is if the couple is going to go through counseling.
I may be a photographer, but I’m in the business of saving marriages with great images.
Read the 5 Love Languages
The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is one of those books you may be required to read when going through Premarital Counseling. (This link is an affiliate link, but I really do want you to read this!)
If not, read it anyway. By learning how to speak to each others love language, or fill each other’s love tank, as Gary puts it, you can grow your love for each other exponentially!
You will be the same person you are today in five years except for two things, the books you read and the people you meet. Reading about love can help you become a better loving person for your fiancé!
Ask Grandparents for Advice
If your grandparents are still married after 40+ years, they may know a thing or two about marriage!
Our grandparents love to share wisdom, and when it comes to marriage, they’re often the best ones to ask for advice.
The advice may be outlandish, profound, or sometimes dirty, but they’re clearly doing something right!
These are the 10 Things to Do Before Your Wedding
This is a lot of work, and some of it may not be easy, but it’s all worth it. The key thing to remember when planning a wedding is to remember that it’s not the wedding you should be planning for, but the marriage.
If you can do even have of these things to do before you get married, I promise, you’ll be off to a great start.