It’s not about the amount of time spent together, it’s about the quality of time. This was the mindset of Grace and myself when we took Rowan to see the ocean for the first time!
Here is the thing: Grace and I work A LOT. I run a photography business, have a day job, and try to be a fun/loving father and husband. Grace works, takes amazing care of our son, and runs a small boutique business with her mom, Two Southern Mamas. Working so much, and spending so little time with each other that it honestly started to effect our relationship together. We were not feeling the love like we did when we first got married.
Rather than wallowing in self pity and seeing no end to all of the work we are doing, we made the spontaneous decision to go on vacation to the beach! (Seriously, we gave ourselves 3 weeks to plan the trip!)
In all of the reading that I have been doing, I keep coming across inspirational quotes that the best investment you can make is in yourself. I agree with that to an extent, but I truly believe the BEST (italicized and bold!) investment you can make is in your family.
Off to see the ocean!
Our trip was a short one, only four days in total, but we made the most of it. We left out from Nashville to Pensacola Beach at 1:00am and arrived at 9:00am. It was the perfect opportunity for me to listen to one of my favorite books, “48 Days to the Work You Love” by Dan Miller while Grace and Rowan slept all but the last hour and a half of the drive. Though, admittedly, I had to turn it off after a while so I could enjoy the quiet created by God.
When we arrived, we were not only excited to see the ocean, but even more excited to see our Hotel! It was the most perfect hotel you could dream of…but I digress!
The second we were officially on vacation, it was as if a huge burden lifted off of our shoulders. No work, no social media, no distractions from family. Just us. We were able to watch Rowan as he timidly tip-toed to where the water meets the sand (and get knocked over by a small wave!). We watched him play in the sand, and we even woke up as a family the next morning to watch the sun rise over the horizon.
The Take Away
It’s funny how, if you really search for them, each day is full of it’s own lessons. This week was no exception. It’s ok to set aside time for yourself and focus on other things than work. In fact, it’s healthy! It’s hard to pull yourself from your routines, from work, and busyness. But when you take time to focus on other things around you rather than work, you can grow your relationships with your family, clear your mind of unnecessary clutter, and impact your life in a positive way.
Seeing my wife and son completely relax while on vacation was the best investment I will ever make. I think I’ll keep that up.